Trusting God Instead Of Yourself

“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).”

Do you have to be in control and have everything figured out?

It is this controlling attitude that gets women in trouble. God’s plan of faith is that we rely on Him and not our own insight. Sometimes, we talk faith while trying to make sure we have everything figured out with life. This is not what God had in mind when he asked for us to trust Him with all our heart. Trusting is putting aside your ideas for God’s ideas.

Can you trust God, today? Can you lay aside all your earthly knowledge and trust God with all your heart fully believing His Word of truth.

Practice this prayer. “God, I am trying to understand what is going on in my life. I have some ideas about what should be done. However, I have decided to trust you, so that is what I am going to do. I give you this, and I am going to trust that you are good and faithful.”

Trust God today and do not trust your own understanding.

“So shalt thou find favor and good understanding in the sight of God and man (Proverbs 3:4).”

The Strength And Hope Of Your Soul

“The Lord is my portion, saith my soul; therefore will I hope in him. (Lamentations 3:24)”.

We are finite beings. We are created to run out of energy. We eat just to eat again. We drink and are soon thirsty. Well, you get the point. That’s how God made us.

It is the same with our spiritual walk. God created us to need Him and His strength. However, one time of feasting is not enough. We need a continual source for our souls to thrive.

When was the last time you rested in God, and where consumed with His new mercy and His goodness.

That kind of renewal does not come from one church service or one good revival. That life-giving nourishment comes from a continual diet of drawing near to God and thinking about His Word. New strength comes from quiet daily correspondence with your Father.

We need fresh energy to run our spiritual race. Look toward heaven and remind yourself of God’s great faithfulness. He is your portion. The strength and hope of your soul.

“It is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness. The Lord is my portion, saith my soul; therefore will I hope in him. The Lord is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeketh him. It is good that a man should both hope and quietly wait for the salvation of the Lord. (Lamentations 3:22-26)”.

A Challenge To Trust God Because Life Can Be Discouraging

Imagine how radically different our life’s would be, if we were responsive to God in every bad situation instead of allowing our minds to go straight to discouragement.


Today I challenge you to take your problem to God and discuss it openly. Be completely honest and blunt, pouring everything out before God. When you get to the end of your rant, tell God you don’t understand what’s going on, and you do not know what to do, however, you are going to trust Him.

Then put your words into practice and trust God with your whole heart. Lean on Him as you think about and deal with your problem. As the discouraging thoughts come to your mind, keep reminding yourself to trust God and not lean back on your own understanding or your natural reactions.

Trust God! Be strong and have courage. Your God is with you!

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go (Joshua 1:9)”.

Because Of Christ…

“But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye steadfast, unmovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labor is not in vain in the Lord (1 Corinthians 15:57-58)”.

Today, focus on Christ and not your problem. Problems come and go. Tomorrow the problem may go away, or it may get worse. When you see only the problem, there can be no victory. Our victory is in Christ! It is because of Christ we can stand strong and face tomorrow.

Do not wait for things to get better to rejoice. Live and work with joy for the Lord today.

Focus on Christ and take action in the midst of your problems. You have victory through Christ. Do not give up! What you are doing is not in vain when you work for the Lord.

Turn your eyes to Christ. Experience His victory in the middle of your problem!

God’s Comfort In The Middle Of Life’s Problems

“Salvation belongeth unto the Lord: thy blessing is upon thy people (Psalm 3:8)”.

God is good! He is our salvation! From Him, we receive all blessing and strength. We can rejoice in who He is, that He is constant and unchanging. He gives the same salvation today that he gave in the days of the Bible.

If you are like me, you sometimes forget God’s goodness and become discouraged. Life weighs on your mind, and your problems become your main focus. It is difficult to look past your needs and see the God who gives salvation.

If only these problems would go away!

I have often wished for an easier life. If did not have problems I would be able to praise Him and feel His goodness.

A problem-free life is not a sign of a spirit filled life.

God works to show His goodness in the middle of life’s problems. Notice the first of Psalms 3, “Lord, how are they increased that trouble me! Many are they that rise up against me. Many there be which say of my soul, There is no help for him in God. Selah (Psalm 3:1-2)”. In these verses, the magnitude of King David’s problems is revealed. The difficulties he is experiencing are not being hidden or diminished. His problems are real just like our problems.

Let’s read further.

But thou, O Lord, art a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter up of mine head. I cried unto the Lord with my voice, and he heard me out of his holy hill. Selah. I laid me down and slept; I awaked; for the Lord sustained me. I will not be afraid of ten thousands of people, that have set themselves against me round about. Arise, O Lord; save me, O my God: for thou hast smitten all mine enemies upon the cheek bone; thou hast broken the teeth of the ungodly. Salvation belongeth unto the Lord: thy blessing is upon thy people. Selah. (Psalm 3:3-8)

With problems on all sides, God is the one who gives the blessing of comfort and rest.

Problems come and go. Sometimes they are small irritants and other times they are unbearable storms. But, God never changes. The same God, who lifted King David’s spirit, is the same God who gives rest and blessing today.

Whether you are facing small irritants or smothering problems, God wants to bless you with His comfort. Your problems may not go away. However, you can experience the peace and joy of God’s presence. Look to God with confident faith.

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Want A Life Of Faith And Beauty Like The Women Of The Bible

The women in the Bible were beautiful and courageous women. They lived lives of beauty and importance filled with victory. Next to them, I feel small and inadequate.

Sarah followed her husband into unknown lands and rocked a baby given by God in her old age.

Abigail boldly took food to David, when her foolish husband refused.

Ruth followed hard after God, even in the face of poverty and won the love of a good man who took her out of poverty and gave her a future.

Mary trusted God and brought the Son of God into the world.

All of these women lived beautiful lives and were favored by God.

But, were they really that different than me and you?

I grew up in religion. I loved God deeply, but I still felt oppressed and condemned by religion, as if everything I did was a huge blunder. I could never do this Christian woman thing. There must be something inherently wrong with me. I could not be good enough.

How about you. Have you tried and tried and somehow feel like a failure as a woman when you look at women around you or women from the Bible. Maybe like me you read Proverbs 31 and feel totally inadequate beside such a creative, industrious, hardworking and God-fearing woman.

I have lived much of my adult life wondering what it means to be a woman.

What can I do?

How should I dress?

What about my secret dreams and desires?

What and where is this abundant life that Jesus offered and why can’t I find it?

Should I stay quiet or speak out?

What is submission?

Where is the beautiful life that the women of the Bible experienced?

That beautiful life is in Christ!

It does not come from being or doing what you should?

It does not come from how one looks or dresses.

It does not come in quietism or submissiveness.

It is not in a clean house or obedient children.

It is not in the act of doing what is right.

Living in the Beauty of Christ is…

A lifestyle of faith.

The lifestyle of faith in Christ is…

Finding your worth in Christ.

Accepting Christ’s forgiveness and living guilt free from a past full of mistakes and sins.

Looking to Christ for daily living.

Living in freedom from perfection.

Resolving to stand on God’s word.

Boldly looking to the future with hope.

Not living to be right, but living to be close to God.

I still look to God to answer my questions about womanhood and life.

Daily, I rely on Christ for help when life is hard.

However, just as the women in the Bible, I live a beautiful life, not because I have it all together or do everything right but because of Christ.

Living in the beauty of Christ is a lifestyle! A lifestyle of faith.

Are Your Thoughts Destroying Your Life

Our mind holds great power over our actions. What we think comes out in our behavior. We may hide our thoughts for a while, but they will eventually show. We may fool ourselves by saying our thoughts are harmless.

What we believe to be true about God and ourselves defines how we respond to people and events around us.

What do you believe about yourself?  What kind of self-talk goes on in your mind?

3 Signs of bad thinking

  • You have a hard time making decisions.
  • You worry about what others think.
  • You do not experience peace or rest in God.
  • Your dreams never turn into realities.

Bad thinking holds us powerless to change our life. It binds and destroys our hope of the future. It keeps us in a place of weakness, refusing to allow us to grow.

If you want to grow, you must change your thinking.

Three ways to turn around bad thinking.

  1. Acknowledge wrong thinking. Changing your thinking begins with acknowledging the bad.  Take notice when you are thinking negative or harmful thoughts. Write them down. Truthfully, tell God about what is going on in your mind.
  2. Replace wrong thinking. Once you have acknowledged the bad, replace it with new. Rewrite the story that plays in your head. Tell yourself what is already true or what you want to be true about yourself. You do not have to feel it. Feelings come later with belief.
  3. Practice. When the old bad way of thinking starts playing in your mind acknowledge what is going on. Stop and replace it with your new story. Repeat this over and over until you begin to believe it.

“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you (Philippians 4:8-9).”

Our way of thinking is so very important. It affects how we love, how we teach, and how we live.

You may feel inadequate to change your thought life, however you are given power through Christ to overcome and renew your mind.


Question: How have your thoughts worked against what you really wanted  in your relationship with family, friends, or God? Comment below

How To Have The Joy of Thanksgiving while Grieving

Thanksgiving is bittersweet for me. I enjoy the time with family and friends, and I enjoy the food. Then there are the moments I remember this was the last holiday spent with my dad. He began his nine-day journey to heaven on the Tuesday after Thanksgiving. It was an unexpected and difficult experience, as a sixteen-year-old. It hurt to see my family broken by death. The feeling of loss is heavy on my heart even after so many years.

Loss is part of living. Anytime we lose something of value we experience loss. It does not matter the size. No loss is insignificant, whether it is the loss of a dream, a house or job, a pet or family member or a child gone astray.

With any loss comes grief. We deal with the loss through grieving, and it can hit us at any time. Greif comes in different ways. It can range from feeling sad to intense sorrow, to just an annoyance and back again.

Embrace grief.   Suppressing one emotion, suppresses the others. You cannot suppress the sad unwanted emotions without also suppressing the wanted joyful emotions.

Lean into grief, allowing your feelings to flow. It is in honest part of living an abundant life.

Grief can lead us to thankfulness and joy if we let it. If we are trusting God, we can begin to be grateful for him and his care during the time of pain. We can be thankful for the object of our grief or for the people around us who care. There can be a joy in grieving, but it only comes to an honest heart, turned to Christ.

Is your heart grieving over a loss? Are you having a hard time celebrating with thankfulness? Be honest with God and yourself by embracing the emotions he has given for your use.

“But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. (1 Corinthians 15:57)”

What is heavy on your heart today? Let me know by commenting below or shoot me an email. ( I cannot wait to hear from you!

God Is Love, I Am Just To Messed Up For Him To Love Me

God is love. I believe it! I have known John 3:16 ever since I was a small child. I do not doubt that God is a loving God, I just doubt that he will love me.

I heard religious leaders and teachers talk about how bad it was to doubt God, and I did believe it was true that he was a loving God, so I pushed back my feelings. I would not express my thoughts outside of my mind, and I would stifle them as quickly as possible.

All my effort was not good enough. I lived plagued with fear, anxiety, and depression.

I wanted what was right. I looked right on the outside. Why couldn’t I experience peace?

Have you ever wondered if God if love you. Maybe you had knowledge of God’s love, yet you doubted He would love you.

I know if you were standing in a church and someone asked you did God love everyone? You would say yes, definitely. If someone asked does God love you? You would again say yes, he does.

You would never argue that God does not love you.

I knew this truth in my mind. However, I did not let the truth internalize in my heart.

Here is how this internal battle plays out in everyday life.

  1. No lasting peace or joy
  2. Isolation from God and others
  3. Closed off from spiritual growth

To reach a place of healing, I had to face myself and face my God.

Here are some steps to reach healing.

  1. Admit faulty thinking – Allow yourself to admit what you are thinking. Do not push the thoughts aside and ignore them. They are running your life you should be able to admit them.
  2. Tell God about it – Telling God the truth is not an easy task, especially when you are a people pleaser. Well, he already knows, so you might as well let it out. There is something therapeutic that happens when you tell God what is going on in your heart. It is in this place of honesty that healing comes.
  3. Constantly retelling truth – In the Bible this is called renewing your mind (Ephesians 4:23). As you retrain your mind with truth from God’s word. It may look like learning new verses or writing out note cards with a prewritten script or prayer to read to yourself when you are experiencing doubt.
  4. Trusting God and His Word – Reminding yourself to trust God even if you do not believe it for yourself at the moment. Sample prayer – “Dear God, I feel like you won’t love me if I don’t act right. But your word says  you do love me(Ephesians 2:4) and that you will never leave me alone (Hebrews 13:5). So, I am going to trust what I know from your word not what I feel. Please help my accept your love and trust you better.”

You can have peace with God. you were not made to live in constant defeat. Talk to God today and begin recovery. Consider talking to a trusted friend, such as a pastor, Sunday school teacher, or a friend who can help support you. Let me know if there is any way I can help. I would love to hear from you.

“But God, who is rich in mercy, for his great love wherewith he loved us, Even when we were dead in sins, hath quickened us together with Christ, by grace ye are saved; (Ephesians 2:4-5)”

Question: What keeps you from feeling like God loves you? Comment below. I would love to hear how God has helped  or is helping you.